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November 18, 2003


Or, whom do you visualize as your reader?

The short answer is that my readers are those of you out there in cyberspace. For the most part I don't know who you are, except as you comment from time to time, for which I thank you.

When I started this blog, I thought of this as a repository for whatever happened to be on the brain, with the caveat that the public nature of the medium inherently would check instances of Way Too Much Information. I think I've generally succeeded in that regard, but that could be because no one's told me otherwise. It's hard to tread in obscure waters, but if I wanted popularity I guess I could talk about my really hot ass.

My family and most of my in-person acquaintances don't know about the blog. It wouldn't be the end of the world if they did, but I don't think they'd be comfortable having so much access to my inner life. And truthfully, I'd feel discomfited too, because they'd know so much more about me than I do about them. Better I had thought things through and told even fewer people about it than I did.

That said, I'm more bothered than I ought to be about a friend's offhand remark that she doesn't read my blog. She doesn't read personal sites in general, which I knew, and yet I told her about my site anyway. Yes, I should've known better - but why condescend to remind me of your indifference? 'Cause I really appreciate knowing that you really don't care.

Yes, I'm overreacting. It's how I feel at this particular moment. I have to remember that there's no point to the blog if I'm not getting anything out of it, even if I am the only one who ever does.

Yours, &c., LC | 04:23 PM | Blogos | Comments (6) | TrackBack (0)

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Posted by: Frankenstein at November 19, 2003 03:48 PM

Hm. This happened with two of my best friends. I felt sort of proud that I could give them more to share with me and thought they'd appreciate it and feel a bit closer, despite the distance. But nope. Two, three complimentary visits, that's all. 'No time to read'. I should add that they have started complaining that they don't know what's going on in my life anymore.

Posted by: mademoiselle a. at November 19, 2003 03:55 PM

In truth, I'm probably not pulling my weight, especially in regard to comments about your really hot ass.

That aside, I generally know what's going on in your life, yet still find time to check your blog every day, because the "public" you that you share on the site is an interesting, well-rounded, erudite, thoughtful, colorful, eloquent character. Plus, you have cool links.

Posted by: Scott at November 19, 2003 04:20 PM

I was going to make a comment about your hot ass, but feel I should defer to Scott ;-)

I've thought about writing a weblog, but have held back because of the issues of judgement & propriety that you raise (Way Too Much Information.) Your postings are always wise, generous or amusing (often all three!)

Posted by: robin at November 20, 2003 10:57 AM

I say carry on with the good work. Like Scott says, what you write is always interesting and erudite. It's sort of like the difference between the Times and the Post. I see more people reading the Post on the train, but they're all losers. Not to pass judgement or anything...

Posted by: mrw at November 20, 2003 11:20 AM

Thank you, hugs and kisses to you all - I feel much better for posting, but more so for your comments and encouragement. Good to know I'm not the only one who's faced this dilemma, mademoiselle a!

If you want to do a weblog, Robin, by all means give it a try. You can always write a post, but wait to publish it if you're concerned. Sometimes I ask someone to vet what I've written if I'm really uncertain whether to publish. Also, when I first started this blog, I probably posted and worked on it for at least a month, maybe even two, before I told anybody about it. That gave me time to play with the layout and work on my content. I don't have a sharp focus for this blog, but there tend to be recurring themes in the links or commentary that I post, so it was sort of an organic development, content-wise. It's good to have at least some idea of what want the blog to be about - mine is sort of a tearoom salon/kickboxing ring.

I started out using Blogger, because it was free. When I realized I wanted to commit to this, I got a domain name (via and then found a host ( All kinds of services have emerged since I started, and that was only over a year ago.

Posted by: LadyCrumpet at November 20, 2003 05:57 PM